You're ruining your morning

Hi friend,

Let me guess what you did this morning.

You woke up, grabbed your phone while you were still half asleep, and started scrolling.

Instagram, Twitter, texts, emails, TikTok, whatever - just lying there taking in everyone else's stuff before you've even thought about your own day.

And then you wonder why you feel all over the place, why you can't focus, why the morning already feels like a mess before you've done anything.

It's because you handed your brain over to your phone before you decided what to do with it.

Think about what's really going on here.

You wake up and your brain is actually clear for once - nothing weighing on you yet, no mess in your head, just that quiet moment where everything feels possible.

And what do you do? Fill it up with junk.

Some random person's opinion, drama that has nothing to do with you, problems that aren't yours, notifications about stuff that didn't matter yesterday and won't matter tomorrow.

You're giving away the best part of your day - right when you wake up - to whoever decided to post something at that exact moment.

And here's the thing: it teaches your brain that the first thing you do every morning is react.

React to messages, react to whatever's going on, react to what everyone else is up to, instead of figuring out what you're supposed to be doing.

You tell yourself it's no big deal, just a quick check, just seeing what's happening.

But it's never quick - it's 20 minutes, 30 minutes, sometimes an hour, and even after you put the phone down, your head is already bouncing between 50 different things.

Your focus is shot, that clear feeling you had when you woke up? You just wasted it on nonsense.

Then you try to actually get something done and it's hard, and you think there's something wrong with you, like you just can't focus.

But that's not it - you already burned through your best thinking before you even tried to use it.

I did this for years and I'm telling you, it messes you up.

Wake up, scroll, feel behind before breakfast, can't focus all day, do it again tomorrow.

And the worst part? You know it's screwing you up, everyone knows it, but you do it anyway because it's easy, because the phone's right there, because scrolling in bed feels like you're resting when really you're just filling your head with garbage.

Here's what actually worked for me:

Phone goes across the room at night, not next to the bed, all the way across the room.

When I wake up, I can't grab it without getting up, and once I'm up, I don't want it anymore.

I make coffee, sit for a minute, think about what I'm actually doing today, have my own thoughts before I let everyone else's thoughts in.

And it's night and day different.

Not because I'm suddenly this disciplined person, but because I'm starting my day on my own instead of letting my feed decide how I feel.

My head is clear, I'm in control, and when I do check my phone later, it doesn't throw me off because I already know what I'm doing.

Sounds easy, right? It is easy, but that doesn't mean it's not hard to actually do.

Because your brain is going to fight you on this - it wants that phone the second you open your eyes, it's used to that quick hit of dopamine from seeing what's new.

And you're going to have to tell it no, every single morning.

Not because your phone is evil, but because how you start matters.

However you start your morning is how the rest of your day goes, and if you start it scattered and reacting to everything, that's how you'll spend the whole day.

So what matters more to you?

Seeing what random people posted at 7am, or actually having a clear head to do something that matters?

You know the answer.

You just have to do something about it.

Until Next Week
Lorenc - Founder of Success Skill